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Can I Have Sex with My Period Cup In?

My greatest obstacle when navigating my cycle as a girl and even now as an adult has been management.

It seemed as if no matter what I did I somehow managed to bleed all over myself in the process.

Just last year at work I had to make a dash home to change my clothes, fortunately I lived nearby.

In high school, tampons seem to be the one thing that help the most with my management issues; plus pads and liners for backup. I honestly didn’t care for them. I don’t really care for anything being stuck up my vagina besides a warm, erect penis attached to an actual person. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Can I have sex with my period cup in? How to use your mentral cup plus sex, cleaning, and hacks.

I’ve tried the period panties. They work wonderfully for my daughter’s baby cycle so I bought her several pair, but they do nothing for my fully vetted “mama” cycle outside of lying around my place for a nice free bleeding session. And for $30+ a pair “around the house” doesn’t work for me.

I’m pretty sure cups may have come before the panties 🤔 but like I said, I don’t care for things being stuck up my vag. So like other things I passed them up. Also at $40 bucks for two pieces of silicone to slide up my pussy!? Nah, I wasn’t feeling it. I hate capitalism… Sometimes 😒😏

Cheers! 🥂

I didn’t think about cups again until my friend, who loves them for her ability to easily collect menstrual blood for her spells, begin raving about them. #witchshit “Maybe I’ll try them,” I thought. But not for $40.

I was on a mission to find less expensive menstrual cups and I did. I even listed them in my store and you can purchase some there, too.

The cups I purchased came in two sizes, small and large made from body safe silicone. Cups are recommended only for adults. Small is for adults who have not given birth vaginally and large is for adults who have given birth vaginally… And this is just what the instructions say and not a personal recommendation.

Insertion Instructions

My instructions for insertion are pinch, fold, tuck, twist, and push. In that order. Sounds complicated and it really is until you practice a bit and you’ll have plenty opportunities for that.

With your leg propped up, side of the bathtub, toilet, or if you’re like me and you need a greater access, prop that leg up on that sink if you can reach…Pinch the cup, fold it and tuck it into the opening of your vagina. Then twist while pushing the cup all the way up until it cannot go any further.

Hot Water Hack: When you run it under hot water first, it makes the cup more pliable and easier to insert. It’s also easier when I insert it while in the shower, however I don’t know your capabilities and limitations so you can decide if the same is true for you.

Leak proof suction is what you get if you did it correctly. If you didn’t, you’ll soon find out 😈.

The instructions says up to 12 hours of leak proof protection. I’ve discovered that this might depend on how heavy your cycle is because gravity is a thing. Also, vaginas don’t tend to care for things stuck inside them either; so She will, with the help of gravity, work to push out things that she feel do not belong. This cup is not the exception.

On my heaviest day, I empty my cup one to two times a day. Other than that, I forget it’s there.

I would not recommend wearing it on your last or lightest day. For me, it’s like my vagina is screaming, “Bitch, I’m done. Now take this thing out!” It just feels super uncomfortable and I can’t tell you why.

Collecting Menses

Even if you find that cups aren’t for you but you are interested in specimen collection, I’d recommend wearing it if only for a few hours on your heaviest days.

Cups are by far an excellent means of quick and easy menstruation collection 🧛🏾‍♀️.

Instead of dumping the contents in the toilet, collect it in a mason jar and add about three drops of oregano oil as a preservative. It’s best to use it within five days of the last day of your menses.

Cleaning and Reuse

When you have to change in a public restroom with multiple stalls, it’s best to bring the additional cup and a wet bag. I believe wet dry bags were originally designed for babies, but I’ve found they work well for non-disposable pads and liners (cloth) and cups, too.

Remove your used cup. Dump the contents into the toilet bowl. Then place the used cup inside of the wet bag. Remove the fresh cup from the wet dry bag and insert as instructed above. You’re welcome.

When it’s time to clean them, you can bowl them on the stove. I grabbed a pot from the thrift store which is what I use to clean my toys when I’m done playing with them. Store yours cups until your menses come around again.

There’s also the option of purchasing a steamer container or bowl specifically for the use of cleaning and popping it in the microwave for a couple of minutes.

image from muslimgirl.com

Sex and Cups

My favorite thing was discovering that I could have intercourse without having to remove my cup 😲. I mean when you think about it… Why not. A whole 7lb human being did come through.

Vaginas are actual magic.

During intercourse, the cup with kinda conform to the space either on the left or right side and not directly against the cervix. If that was something you might have been wondering.

Once it’s over and out, the cup just pops back into place. I love it!

Size Matters

How this goes depends on a couple of things

  1. The size of the penis (judge for your personal experience)
  2. The weight of the cycle

A larger penis on a heavy day is a bit more of a clean up than a smaller penis on a heavy day. Put a towel down 😁

A smaller penis on a medium to light day is little to no clean up besides the usual after sex clean up. If you do after sex clean up… I should do a post about this 🤔.

A larger penis on a medium day is light clean up.

I do not feel the cup at all with a smaller penis. I can feel it with a larger penis only a bit, but that’s just me. I enjoy this feeling though, particularly when the cup is tucked to the left. That bit is very specific to my body, though.

I highly recommend experimenting with your own body to see what works best for you.

All of the above statements remain true even when I am straddling my partners. You can be the judge of what is larger or smaller when it comes to penises based on your personal experience. If not, catch me on another post ✌🏾.

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I am an advocate for every womxn who has ever been hoe-bashed or slut-shamed into believing there was something she needed to do or be in order to acquire the love and respect she deserves. Sexually Empowered, Millennial Mom. ProHeaux Sex Witch. Intuitive Empath. Sex Writer + Orgasm Advocate + Community Healer.


  • Valerie

    Can the guy feel the cup? I have horrible, and I mean horrible cycles. Like I bleed for 4 months straight. I’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and we have both been wanting to take that next step, but I don’t want the first time to be while I’m on my period, but at the same time, I could be on it for 4 more months ‍♀️ I would be comfortable with this route if he can’t feel the cup. I just don’t want it to be awkward.

    • Victoria

      Valerie, Thank you for your comment.

      This would be something you and your partner should definitely talk about and experiment with. In my experience, the size and shape of the penis definitely affects whether the cup can be felt and also whether is will shift. As some cups are softer than others, this also affects whether or not the cup can be felt.

      It’s best to experiment on medium to light days and to make sure the cup is empty or at the very least isn’t full prior to experimenting. I hope this helps.

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